[1.1.80] Server login problem

[Sklecs]

My friend and I played with space exploration mods. One fine day we finished playing, scanned several planets with the help of a satellite.
The next day I try to connect to it, but after downloading a map that weighs 350MB, my game freezes and the server throws me out after a while.
I looked in the task manager, factorio eats 5GB of RAM (I have only 8) of RAM and loads a hard drive under 100%.
I thought that you can reduce the quality of the sprites themselves.
It did not help, it also throws it out after freezing.
I launched the map in a single game, everything starts fine after a few minutes of waiting, it also freezes. In single player FPS 59.
We played through redmin, then tried through hamachi, nothing helps.
I thought about opening a personal tunnel between computers.
But I think that the problem is not in the connection between me and the friend, but in the fact that my computer is not able to load the map quickly.

Therefore, I want to know if it is possible to somehow disable the kicking of the player due to the fact that it takes a long time to load?

I would be very grateful for any of your answers. I tried to find a solution myself for several days, there is nothing on the Internet

[Moggele]

We had some analog problems viewtopic.php?f=49&t=106096

[Sklecs]

To me, this is a terrible problem. All the sophistication of this game just kills, the only problem.
I was advised to remove extra planets that are not used, but this is not a solution to the problem.

Maybe it's true, it won't work on the server like this(

I don't even have any idea what to do with it.

[Rseding91]

Can you post the save file so I can see why it’s taking so long to load?

[Moggele]

We had some analog problems
viewtopic.php?f=49&t=106096
and here is our map. I hope something can help.
https://files.m0ggele.de/s/fci3aSYmRq46A2c

[Rseding91]

It looks like the issue is the https://mods.factorio.com/mod/graftorioSF mod; removing that fixes the performance issues completely.