the odd thing is for about 30sec to a minute we can play the game fine before one of us gets kicked. we tried again today but this issue still persists. is there somewhere else that i should post this for more visibility? thanks again for the help!

we seem to be able to play for a few minutes and then the map tries to download and the client desyncs from the host. seems to happen no matter who the host is.
what we have tried:
verifying game files
no mods
remove autosaves
allowing firewall settings

tried to search a good bit for a solution ...